So my sister is now divorcing her husband and she’s staying with me while everything is finalized. Without getting to deep, my sister did have a miscarriage a few months ago.
I talked to my wife before this, and I told my sister that I could find her somewhere else to stay if my wife being pregnant is going to be difficult to around.
She’s been staying with me in the guest bedroom since then.
My wife has lately been hyper fixated on the baby’s health. At first I just thought that she was thinking about my sister and did my best to ease the concerns.
When I came home my wife was in the living room crying and she looked really stressed.
She told me that she was fine and just stressed out, I didn’t buy it, eventually she confessed what was really bugging her.
My sister was pretty much trying to turn into a parent to our kid, apparently throughout this time she was calling herself mom to our kid, when our kid would need a diaper change she would do it, and get mad if my wife did it, when it was breastfeeding time she would get upset, cry, or get mad at my wife, even asked her to formula feed so it’s “easier for everyone” she did more things but you get what I’m saying, the reason my wife was so fixated on miscarriages was because my sister was apparently berading her with things about miscarriage,
Example “why are you eating that? That kills your baby!” (She had yogurt?) “no don’t do that! Don’t you know that causes a miscarriage!” She accused my wife of wanting a miscarriage because she was doing everything wrong or everything that causes miscarriage.
Last straw was that day when she tried to tell my wife to also breastfeed the baby, then insult her when she said no.
I asked how I never heard this because, while I do work late she breastfeeds while I’m here, she said that she would do it when I’m not around but when I left it would start back up again.
I sat down with my sister and told her that I’d be happy to get her a rental, hotel so forth, and I support her in this, but she can’t stay here, and I can’t in good Conscience let this affect people who are also going through hard times.
She started pleading with me saying she would never do it again. I told her that I’ll keep helping her with what ever she needs, I suggested intensive therapy, or professional help, but she got mad at me, so I saidShe needs to leave.
She was yelling at me but in the end left to a hotel, but my whole family has my ass for this. Saying I will never understand a miscarriage and this is normal behavior, and she will never forgive me for being so mean, I’ll pay to help her, emotional support, but my wife and kids didn’t sign up for this, it is my fault to think that someone who went through that could be infront of that, but would I not even more of one be if I let her stay?