I (26F) have been together with my fiance (37M) for 2 years and we’ve been engaged for 7 months. We have some fights like all couples but it’s rarely major. However, a recent issue has caused us to have the biggest argument we’ve ever had.
We used to have one car each. I had a small Ford and he had a GMC pickup. That was until he crashed his car into a tree while driving home from the trails back in February. His side of the story was that another car started chasing him which caused him to crash, but I heard from his buddies that he’d drunk a lot of beers before driving home. He was fine except for a broken nose and glass in his eye but his car was written off.
Since then, we’ve been sharing my car, since the insurance company are being really slow at paying us out. This hasn’t been too bad because he mostly works mornings and I start work at 2pm so we can share the car pretty easily.
My fiance goes to the bar a couple of evenings a week. He usually leaves his car at the bar and walks home but now that he’s using my car, I don’t like him leaving it there because the bar is in a bad neighborhood. On the Saturday of Easter weekend I woke up and found my fiance on the couch but no car in the yard. When I woke him up and asked where the car was, he said he was so drunk when he came home that he thinks he drove down the wrong driveway and crashed into a wall so he left the car there and walked home. The biggest problem is that he says he can’t remember where this happened so we couldn’t even search for the car.
This isn’t the first time he’s got lost on his way home from the bar, although in the past it’s usually been when he walked home. Quite a few times I’ve had to find him using his phone’s location and pick him up late at night when he called me after getting lost. Sometimes he’s literally been asleep on the side of the road and one time he’d even been bitten by a dog. I know he has a bit of a problem with liquor, though I’ve always considered that a personal matter so rarely bring it up. But since this time it’s resulted in me losing my car (and I can’t file an insurance claim without risking getting him in trouble for DUI) I’m pretty unhappy with him.
My fiance thinks we should either file an insurance claim for my car saying it got stolen or we should wait until the insurers eventually pay us out for his pickup. But it’s been very embarrassing for me having to ask for a ride to work every day, so I suggested we sell his motocross bike and buy a new car asap, especially because he can’t really use the bike anyway without a car to tow it to the track. It’s not that I want to punish him or anything but I did point out that technically it is his fault that we now have no cars.
This caused a huge argument and he’s mad at me for even suggesting the idea of selling the bike. While I agree that selling the bike would be drastic, I don’t think I’m unreasonable just for bringing up the idea, but he says I’m being controlling. So reddit, AITA?