I F35 been married to my husband Tom M32 for three years. We recently moved to a new home about 4 months ago and he started his new position at a private company and met new people who became friends with him outside of work.
His work colleague “claire” is a bit intrusive and doesn’t really respect boundaries. She’d bring meals to my husband at work pretty much everyday. And buy him stuff saying she does this with everybody. She bought him a keychain before then he came home with a new tie and there wasn’t even an event at the company or outside of it. My husband said she is just generous and has a good heart. She’d call him after work to ask what he’d like to eat the next day wft? I was stunned and confused. He didn’t reply to her saying he doesn’t want to make me upset and sort of drop it. The next day he came from work with her meal leftovers wanting me to try her cooking. I started getting uncomfortable and I wanted to meet her since I was told she’s a good person and what I found out was far from the truth. She saw me in the car with my husband and said hi in the meanest way imaginable. She kept asking me rude questions and made comments about my age.
I tried to end the conversation and we left after that. My husband wanted invite a few friends over dinner since neither his nor my family live near. And Claire was invited as well.
She started talking about work and basically excluded me from the conversation and it was rude, very rude. and then brought up my age again. I was getting uncomfortable but didn’t say anything until she asked my husband what he wanted to eat the next day. I told her thank you but she shouldn’t be bringing him meals at work I thought that was inappropriate and not professional. She talked about him trying “something new” and her cooking background and stuff. I told her no thanks but she disregarded my opinion. I got so mad at the blatant disrespect and told her to stop bringing him meals at work. She got upset and then after the argument she ended up leaving.
My husband’s thinks I’m being rude to her and that I should apologize. But I refused because she was out of line completely. Especially after having been told no. He calls me controlling but I don’t see how that’s true.
Edit to say that I cook as well during the week so it’s not like we don’t eat fresh meals so she’s being openly disrespectful and rude.
Edit2 everyone I talked to thought it was strange behavior as well. It’s not a common thing for a female worker to bring food to work. And of course she isn’t the only female worker at the company and I can’t find an explanation for this behavior and the point of it.