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My boyfriend (male) and I (female) have been dating less than a year and we are both early 20’s. He has treated me better than my last few relationships, including completely understanding my sense of humor, treating me to gifts, picking up the tab regularly, etc.
Due to recent circumstances, I got a new job that’s closer to home and only about 10 minutes away from where Boyfriend works. I’ve been driving him to and from work, as well as any other places we go because he lost his license. I’ve been pretty much exclusively staying at his place because I have to work early. His parents and my parents are all okay with this, and his parents are extremely appreciative they don’t have to take him places daily.
That being said, he makes me late for work every morning.
Our alarms go off at the same time every morning, but recently he turns his off and sleeps for an extra 20 minutes or more. I wouldn’t have an issue with this except him doing this means we never leave when I need us to. It causes me extreme anxiety as I am not someone who is late for anything, and this has now become my problem.
I have expressed this to him in multiple ways, including getting angry with him, becoming close to the point of tears because it’s upset me, and plainly stating that it upsets me when I am late and asking him not to sleep in if he can’t be ready on time.
Each response is met with some form of irritation, and words of him being stressed and tired, and having a hard time getting up in the morning.
I’m honestly at a loss because I do love him and see a future with him, but this is seriously impacting my mental health with everything else going on. I feel like he doesn’t take me seriously, and doesn’t value my feelings about this, even when I’ve been extremely accommodating for him.
Any thoughts or advice?